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BURN BABY BURN!

As I stand here burning over 6 years of journals from 2004-2011 spread across 19 notepads I am encompassed in an overwhelming feeling of gratitude to the young girl who embarked on this journey so many years ago.

To my younger self…this is for you.

Thank you.

Thank you for having the courage to move through some of the most extraordinarily painful experiences of your life. You persevered and I am grateful for you.

Because or you I am standing here before you today a woman full of love and light.

You didn’t even know me back then. I was a glimpse of a dream to you but you had passion and strength and trust and belief that helped you surpass any doubts. You had wisdom beyond your years and a knowing in your heart and soul that compelled you forward.

You had no idea you were following the breadcrumb trail of your intuition to lead you through the journey. Thank God you followed! Thank God you listened to the nudges! You didn’t always grasp it in the whisper but you ALWAYS received the lessons. I am so grateful and so proud of you for saying yes when you were frightened. For always knowing there was something “more” but never quite understanding what that was. There was just a strong yearning pulling you forward that you had to follow.

As tears run down my face I’m grateful for you. Because of your strength and perseverance I’m standing here today. A strong woman, no longer a girl. A woman who feels whole, no longer broken. A woman who embraces her feminine essence, her spiritual gifts, her power and wisdom.

A woman who is about to embark on another journey in sharing her gifts with the world. I look back at you and see how brave you were to follow blindly and believing in this feeling of something “more”. I have that same feeling again. There’s something “more” and because of your example, your strength and your willingness to move forward step by step, day by day, moment by moment I am willing to do it all again.

It’s been a wild and amazing journey and because of you, a young girl who believed blindly, I am here today an extraordinarily happy woman who feels oh so very blessed to be a witness to your tremendous growth.

Here’s to our next amazing journey….

I love you.

Thank you.

It’s time to RECEIVE compliments!

There is an EPIDEMIC going on! Women everywhere are dismissing compliments giving to them… every-damn-day!!

WHY??

This I still do not know the answer to. I definitely used to do that. I would barely say thank you to someone who gave me a compliment.  Years ago I decided this was rude (because that’s how it felt when I gave a genuine compliment to someone and they dismissed or ignored it).  I began to say THANK YOU and you know what…. it actually started to feel REALLY GOOD.  Today when someone gives me a compliment I LOVE IT.

I light up… WHY? Because it feels so damn good to receive a genuine compliment. It’s  a GIFT and something generous someone is giving to me.  Here’s a short video with my 2 cents on accepting compliments.

What’s your take on compliments?  Do you love them? Hate them? Feel uncomfortable? What’s your experience? I’d love to hear in the comments below.

PS: Remember you are not alone.  If you’d like to stay connected I have a women’s group on FB Permission to Receive™. Click Here.

Uggh – and that’s the TRUTH too!

Have you ever had a deep need to do SOMETHING that you couldn’t quite get right? You KNOW what you want to achieve, a knowing so deep, a need so strong, that you feel compelled to try to do that THING and yet when you sit down to do it… it just doesn’t happen?

How do you feel? Frustrated? Like a failure? As if everything is just really hard work?

Me too. And I know that this is not a good path to stay on. So, I’ve started doing 3 things that are putting me on a new path. Here’s how it is working for me. Right now. In real time.

Today, I’ve sat down at my computer 5 different times attempting to come up with SOMETHING to write to you.  Some THING that will knock your socks off!  Make you go “hmmm”.  Get you to realize something fabulous about yourself.  Some THING that will make it all SNAP into place!

In the past, I would have thrown in the towel. Now, on my new path, I am sitting down and writing to you even without a big EPIPHANY. I’m doing this because I have a deep-seated need to connect and stay connected. And I know that by not forcing myself to be brilliant, by not giving up, by not giving in, that the words will come and the message will become clear.

I’m guessing I’m not alone in my pursuit of perfection. The new path is taking me on a  journey of placation of perfection (is that even right? IDK but it just came to me so I’m keeping it in).

I used to put this pressure on myself that everything I wrote had to be perfect. That what I had to share has to be profound and REALLY matter (no pressure!).  It’s as if there is an underlying belief that what I write has to be perfect on the first draft – that I have to be perfect on the first draft. (Note to self – the definition of a first draft is exactly that a FIRST DRAFT and no one but me is expecting it to be perfect).  

LightBulbAnd, well, it does not. In fact, even the last draft, the one I send, doesn’t have to be deep and meaningful and life-altering perfection either. I don’t have any light bulb moment to share with you. I just want to connect and share an “ah ha” and touch base to check in and see how you are doing.  To say hello and let you know – this works … this shit is getting real – my life is changing and I’m loving it!

Things just seem to be getting “easier” as of late and here are the 3 THINGS that have led me to this new path:

1) SELF-LOVE: For the last 2 months ANY time I’ve felt something, anything negative or judgmental towards myself. I’ve stopped, taken a deep breath, relaxed and then said the words “I love you, I love you, I love you” to myself over and over and over and over again.  I just say “I love you” until the stress goes away. I start to feel better and the truth is I feel love for myself in the moment.  I love that!

2) SELF-CONSULTATION: Looking to my intuition for answers I am seeking when I don’t know what to do.  It’s amazing how things come through when I actually ASK and LISTEN to my intuition.  I have a few different methods of doing this, one of which I use the most. Listening to where in my body I feel a YES or a feel a NO. NO feels heavy to me and I feel it in my lower abdomen. YES feels lighter to me and I feel it in my heart to neck area.

SelfTrust3) SELF-TRUST: It’s been a long haul but I’m now trusting my intuition.  The first part was accessing it.  The second part and I think probably the most important part is the TRUSTING of it.  My intuition has my best interest at heart and when I’m acting upon it and trusting it my world seems to be accelerating in the THIS SHIT IS GETTING EASIER department.

By no means are things perfect but just by listening it’s all starting to come together.  Even writing this…. now I’m having FUN sharing whereas 30 minutes ago I was fidgeting around and avoiding sitting down and writing all because I didn’t have the perfect message, the profound insights and wasn’t sure how much I was willing to share.

A true connection works both way. I’d love to hear your “ah ha’s”.  I want to learn from you and about you. What do you want to hear?

  • What are you struggling with right now?
  • What are your hopes and dreams?
  • What’s the “ONE thing” that if you could change, your life would fall into place?
  • Are you doing what you love?
  • Are you loving what you do?
  • What ideas or nudges do you have that you are not acting upon?

My intuition (for longer than I care to admit) has been nudging me in the area of get on video’s and I haven’t.  I realized over a long time it wasn’t just procrastination or things like that, it was an unconscious fear about being seen for who I truly am.  Warts and all. I’ve heard this buzzing around the self-help industry and amongst friends.  “Afraid to be seen”. I’d love to hear from you though, what is it that’s keeping you held back?  What are you not embracing that you want to be? I’m going to stop now and make some notes for future posts (and videos) so that I can pause and learn a little bit more from you.

Please share in the comments below or (if you don’t want to share publicly) you can send a message to me directly: melissa@melissarisdon.com I’m all ears!

Much love to you,
Melissa

PS: Remember you are not in this alone.  If you’d like to stay connected I have a women’s group on FB Permission to Receive™. Click Here.

I AM TIRED OF YOU!

I am tired of you…

I am tired of you not supporting me or believing in me.

When you are pursuing a dream often there is someone in your life that will object and not support you.  They may tell you:

  • That will never work
  • You don’t now what you are doing
  • You’ll never make it
  • That doesn’t make any sense
  • You don’t know enough
  • You are pretty enough
  • You don’t have enough experience
  • Wait till next week
  • That’s not good enough…

And so on.  There is usually someone you can point to and say see he/she doesn’t support me which makes it hard.

What I have found is that I have had people in my life that do not support me and it hurts but what hurts more then anything has been the times I’ve not supported myself.

If you are anything like me you have found that the person that holds you back the most is yourself.  So I put together a short video because I’m tired of you, I mean me, not supporting me!

If you are anything like me you try to do a lot on your own.  I’m here to share with you my story, my up’s & downs and my authentic truth.

Curious to learn what are you holding yourself back from?
What are you not giving yourself permission to do?

Please leave a comment below.

Much love to you,
Melissa

You Are The One!!!

You’re the one!  You are IT!!  You are the exact right person I have been searching for!  You are everything that I need in a coach, a mentor, a person…… I pick YOU!!

Does anyone else have the same unrealistic fantasy that I do?  That some day, some where I’ll be discovered by someone.  That out of thousand of other people someone will say:

 

“You, Melissa are the one that needs to be on stage, speaking.”

“Melissa you are the only one I want to work with.”

“It’s YOU I want to hire, I don’t care how much.”

 

That somehow ALL the dreams I have about my business will come crashing into my lap… I’ll wake up tomorrow out of this reality and standing in the middle of my big fat dream!

I wish it was that easy and for some it seems that it may have been that easy….

 

PamelaYou may have heard of Pamela Anderson. Did you know that when she was attending a British Columbia Lions football game her image was transmitted on the stadium’s widescreen? The fans cheered so much she was brought down to the 50-yard line and introduced to the crowd. As a result, she was signed to a commercial contract which lead to additional commercials and advertising and because of those she was approached by Playboy for the cover! THE COVER!!!  A rare coveted spot.

 

KatherineHow about Katherine Webb? She was the girlfriend of University of Alabama quarterback A.J. McCarron. In January 2013 she gained national attention during the 2013 BCS National Championship Game telecast, in which the announcer talked about Webb as she sat watching the game in the stands and referred to her as a “lovely lady” and “beautiful”.  During the game her twitter following jumped from 2,000 to over 175,000. Since then she’s been on TV shows & David Letterman.

 

Both an overnight success… right?!?!

 

Stories like these are the ones that everyone talks about because things like this rarely to NEVER actually happen….  which is WHY everyone’s talking about it!!

I need to remember that.  The story that is much more common, because it’s real, it’s raw and it’s what it takes to make your dreams come true are these stories…

 

OprahOprah Winfrey was fired from her first television job as an anchor in Baltimore, where she said she faced sexism and harassment.

Vera Wang failed to make the U.S. Olympic figure-skating team. Then she became an editor at Vogue and was passed over for the editor-in-chief position.

J.K. Rowling was a single mom living off welfare when she began writing the first “Harry Potter” novel.

Lucille Ball appeared in so many second-tier films at the start of her career that she became known as “The Queen of B Movies.”

StephenieMyerStephenie Meyer the author of Twilight series wrote 15 letters to literary agencies and received 14 rejections.

Marilyn Monroe had a rough upbringing and was told by modeling agents that she should instead consider being a secretary

 

I need to remember that I am not alone.  Others have inspiring stories of failure, of heart ache and of triumph.

 

I do my best to remind myself that no one is going to discover me.  No one is going to knock on my door and tell me I’m great, I’m capable, I have permission to offer my services.  No one is going to run up to me and throw hundred dollar bills and at me and beg me to coach them….

 

In owning my own business there are days that are hard.  When I’m crying by myself in my office because I don’t know what to do next.  I’m coloring my hair for the very first time in my life because I can’t afford the $125 appointment.  The night I laid awake in bed for 2 hours scared to death because I didn’t know where my next client was going to come from.  Or just the other night when I woke in the middle of the night wondering… am I making the right decision?  Am I really doing the right thing… should I just go back to my job with a steady paycheck? Would that be easier?

 

MR-043I know it wouldn’t be easier.  I know I would regret it.  Instead I decide to push past my fears, transform my blocks & concur my resistance and I need to DO the hard work!!  I need to sweat and cringe and wince in agony as I dial the phone to share my new program with someone.  I’m the ONLY one that can make the phone call.  I’m the only one that can make my offer.  I’m the only one that can share my unique message.  It’s up to me and it’s my choice.  I decide…. I’m the one that believes in myself.  I’m the one that gives myself permission to be great.  I’m the one that to tells myself it’s okay to be a success. I’m the one that writes my articles.  Then I realize yes indeed I AM THE ONE!

 

And so I carry on, one day at a time, pursuing the dream and persevering…. what about you?